For schoolkids, bathrooms can be a warzone, and as this student says, making rules about which ones they can and can’t visit are only going to make it worse.
Out of the seven-hour school day, I spend an average of two minutes in the bathroom. That’s it. Business as usual. No one bats an eye.
Just an hour away from where I live, in Frankfort, Kentucky, my business and the business of every other transgender student attending a public school is not as usual. In fact, it’s under scrutiny by a drafted bill titled the Kentucky Student Privacy Act.
The Kentucky Student Privacy Act, as proposed by Kentucky State Sen. C.B. Embry, would deny access to restrooms, locker rooms and other gender-specific spaces to students who do not identify with the gender assigned to them at birth. The act also suggests “compromises” with transgender students who fit these circumstances. In this case, the transgender student would have to use a unisex facility, which many schools do not have, or use the faculty restrooms.
To give a student perspective on this situation: The only private restroom space in my own school building is set away from general classroom areas and separated by two floors from most of my classes. The two minutes I take out of changing classes or instructional time for going about my business would turn into a longer period, taking a chunk out of my academic and social time. And along with that — it would create embarrassment and less affirmation for my gender. While assigned female at birth, I identify as male, express this identity and go along with my day as any other guy. The prospect of having to go out of the way to take special action due to private anatomy (hence the word “private”) is segregation.
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This makes out that non trans gender people are making it a big deal who uses what toilet (and that is true) but it is also the case that trans gender people are equally making a big deal over the fact that they want to use a specific toilet and not the other one.
Look I have no problem with a man who wants to dress like a woman (and yes I know the whole dress thing is a social construct) but I actually take offensive when it gets to the stage that a man decides he is a woman just because he says so and vice versa, and therefore I have to treat him like a woman. The reality is I was born with a vagina he wasn't, I get periods he has never had to put up with that. Equally I'm not going to call myself a man which I think is insulting to men because I don't know what is like to have a penis or get blue balls or whatever.
As I say I don't mind if someone wants to dress like a woman, go as far as having a sex change etc, if this makes them happy good for them, but I draw the line where I am expected to call them a woman, share a woman's toilet with them etc simply because they have "decided" they are a woman.
I don't like unisex toilets, I prefer to use an all female bathroom, i feel uncomfortable going to the toilet in the presence of the opposite sex. Perhaps that makes me a prude, but I can't be the only one because otherwise all toilets would be unisex. In any case even if you think I am being prudish and petty by insisting only women use a female toilet, transgender people are being equally petty by insisting that their world is going to cave in if they use the toilet of their birth sex.
Hear hear. There are many psychiatrists who believe that transgender is a mental illness, just as others don't agree with this assessment. I find it somewhat surreal that it is now considered normal to give children as young as 12 hormones to suppress hormonal growth and to cut off a man's penis because he feels that he is a woman.
If you have a penis, go to the men's loo. If you have a vagina, use the womens.
To Ms Anon (which is quite telling that you don't even want to put your name to your comments . . . ). You really have zero understanding of gender. No one 'decides' to be male or female. You just are. Unfortunately, whether it be due to genetics (and yes there actually are women who are XY and others who are XXY) or due to exposure to varying levels of testosterone during conception, there are a number of people whose bodies fail to represent the gender they are.
Thankfully due to modern medicine this can now be pretty much fixed and their bodies corrected to match their innate gender. Note 'innate' - not something they have 'decided' or 'chosen'.
You have even made the point against your own objection. If a person who is female (born unfortunately with the wrong 'bits' and now corrected) should definitely not be made to go to the men's toilets. Just as you would rightfully not want to.
Please Susan - if you are going to check just to make sure I have a vagina . . please at least give me a warning before looking under the stall.
A really well written article Casey. At my previous school the transgender students were permitted to use staff amenities, however my current school has no policy in place that I am aware of.
Good luck to you and your cause.