By JAYASHRI KULKARNI
PMS isn’t real.
Well, according to several recent academic studies it isn’t and as a result, it is starting to become an accepted norm: that when it comes to PMS, women are just ‘looking for an excuse’.
This puzzlingly widespread belief needs challenging, as it perpetuates negative concepts linking female reproduction with negative emotionality.
So why are we having this debate again anyway?
Firstly, many opinions about the existence of PMS are fuelled by personal philosophy and politics, rather than by reason and good research.
Over the centuries, women have had to cope with dismissive views about their anger, depression or capabilities, and being labelled as “irrational” during “that time of the month”.
In the 1970s, feminists fought hard against the concept of hormone influences on women’s behaviour in their struggle to achieve equality for women. It was important back then to dismiss women’s biology as the only determining factor of her life.
Today, we don’t have to take the view that women’s biology, including their hormone profiles, are unimportant. We can reclaim biology and integrate it with the psychological plus social contexts to see that PMS does exist and does cause real suffering for many women.
Second, a vast body of neuroscience work is being ignored by the media – in favour of these studies which proclaim that PMS is all in women’s heads.
The evidence (from many studies) about the integration of hormones with mental processes is now well established.
Top Comments
It's definitely a real thing. My twin sister gets it SO much worse than me - she is a wreck. I basically avoid her for a few days. My best friend's boyfriend has said for about two years that we're a bunch of sooks and we should learn to control our emotions... Makes me wanna punch him ESPECIALLY when I'm in that stage.
Glad there's a lot of comments here that support it, except I think there will always be women who don't agree with it because it is hard to explain when you don't feel it.
Isn't PMS payback for all the times you've been tolerant when you shouldn't have been?
I say that jokingly but on a more serious note I don't believe I have to apologise for being a woman and experiencing a change in my hormones. It's not abnormal, it happens to most of us every month!
Men also have their own hormones that cause them to act in ways most women would never consider. Lets accept that we're different to men and lets not turn on each other because some people feel PMS more than others.
I think women debating whether or not PMS is or is not acceptable is taking us quite a few years back in our evolution.
I think there are two issues here:
1. You suffer from PMS and its a monthly struggle and you understand that many women around you are also struggling.
or
2. You don't really suffer it to the same extreme and therefore you assume that the rest of us are just out of control.
Sorry to be blunt but I think this one is black or white rather than grey.
No you shouldn't apologize for experiencing a change in your hormones, but you should apologize if you deliberately use it as an excuse to treat others poorly while you're going through it. Yes PMS is a real thing, and a small percentage have an extreme reaction, but the vast majority would have some issues but nothing too off the rails. As a woman myself, I do think it's very easy to unleash the bitch when frustration levels are a little higher during the month and then just go "oh well I had PMS". That's not cool.