Not gonna lie: A lot of it is about the dress…
Being asked to be a bridesmaid is a double-edged sword.
On the one hand, you’ve been asked to be there at one of the most significant occasions in your friend’s life. On the other hand: hideous dress that you must pay for and pretend to like, plus bridezillas (Not that I have had this experience…cough…).
Bridesmaid duty elicits a strong response from anyone who’s experienced it, as evidenced in a recent Reddit thread that had former ‘maids dishing on what they loved – and what they bloody hated.
With the help of Reddit, we’ve pulled together a comprehensive list of the dos and don’ts for brides-to-be who’d like to remain friends with their bridesmaids after the wedding.
1. DO tell your bridesmaids what you want them to do.
“Look, I’m here for you. I want this to be the way you want. My expectations are that I’m going to spend a crapload of money, wear a big puffy dress, and actively seek out the company of a lot of your elderly relatives at events. We are friends so this is cool. Do not also ask me to also make decisions,” wrote “MissChiff0”.
2. DO listen to your bridesmaids.
“The bride listened to our input on dresses, including price, and while she had the final say, we got to veto if we had a problem with it, but we didn’t have to,” wrote “Lil_Boots1”.
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Ive been a bridesmaid in 4 weddings now and have been pretty lucky so far - barely paying for anything and generally liking the choices made.
The only thing I would suggest to the bride is be up front if bridesmaids are expected to pay for anything and ask for a budget. Most people would be okay with buying the dress as long as they know about it and can budget accordingly (with saying that, don't choose a $300 dress and make them pay for it!).
Secondly, and this is to the bridesmaids - it doesn't matter what you dont like about it (hair, makeup, nails or dress etc) put up with it!! Its the brides wedding and she gets everything her way. You dont like square, french tipped nails? TOO BAD. You don't like wearing winged eyeliner, SUCK IT UP! Three out of the 4 weddings I was in, There was always a bridesmaid that complained about one aspect and actually did it differently regardless of what the bride said. So rude!!
The bridesmaids in the very first photo look like they are holding chickens rather than bouquets of flowers. Also, Charlotte's bridesmaid dress always annoyed me in the movie. There's no way traditional old Charlotte would have worn a black dress to a wedding.