WARNING: This post details an incident of domestic violence.
R&B singer Chris Brown has attempted to explain his actions the night he assaulted then-girlfriend Rhianna in a car on the way home from a 2009 Grammy awards party.
Opening up in detail about the night, the 28-year-old dedicated an 11-minute segment of his new documentary Chris Brown: Welcome to My Life to talking about their “fairy-tale” relationship and the now-infamous night he left Rhianna bloodied and bruised.
“I remember she tried to kick me, but then I really hit her, with a closed fist, I punched her. I busted her lip. When I saw it, I was in shock. I was like, ‘F–k, why the hell did I hit her?'” he says in the film.
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Soooooo it's only domestic violence when it's towards women?
If she was clearly hitting him, BITING him, kicking him, it was a brawl.
How are we supposed to know the truth? Did we have a camera in the car to know how much damage she may of done to him?
He should not have hit her, that's for sure, but she should have stopped herself two.
Domestic violence goes TWO ways. A woman can most definitely be the perpetrator and I'm honestly a little bit sick of hearing about it only ever happening to women.
If this was the other way around and he took a restraining order out on her, took her to court, there wouldn't have been any media hype and I'll probably 100% bet that the police would have LAUGHED at him.
This doesn't sound like victim blaming. He's not blaming her for his actions, he is telling the world what happened prior to his actions which contributed to the anger.
I don't care about statistics, domestic violence doesn't discriminate.
Hypothetically, what is a guy supposed to do if he is physically attacked by a woman? And don't tell me it doesn't happen, I know it happens, but what is the politically correct response? If you've got an angry, out of control female hitting, kicking, punching and/or biting you, what are you supposed to do, and at what point are you able to defend youself?
I'm honestly curious. Thoughts?
Honestly, I think men (and everyone) should have the right to defend themselves. The issue is that it can be bloody hard for someone to check their force, and if they are significantly bigger / stronger than the other person involved it would be very easy to punch them once and knock them out / kill them.
I have never, ever thought that a man should just 'take it' and that men shouldn't be allowed to defend themselves against a woman if a woman is assaulting them. Ideally, considering the current climate, I would suggest that a man do his best to physically leave the situation.
Walk away.
It a hard one. I think you can use self defence, like a single hit to disengage and create space, but totally nailing her is not self defence. I don't think a man should have to sit there and be attacked by a woman, however I also feel hitting a woman is NEVER ok. I feel really conflicted by these situations. I am a woman, and sometimes I hear of situation like this and think, i don't approve, but I'm not sure what you expected to happen if your physically assaulting another person?
But let me add, there is no way he was creating space or acting in self defence. That was obviously a vicious attack and no matter WHAT was happening there is no scenario that flies in. Rhianna was a mess. And I don't think he is sorry.