When you’re a woman over 30 who doesn’t have children, it can feel – in a world of primary-school reading groups and soccer presentation nights – like you’re the odd one out. A walking taboo.
And the question of why you’re not like the others can hang in the air at every unfamiliar social function.
Inspired by a piece in New York Magazine, we bring every woman living awesomely without kids some support and ammunition – the very best words on living child-free from 15 excellent public people.
1. Julia Gillard
“I’m not sure I could have [balanced having children with my career]. There’s something in me that’s focused and single-minded and if I was going to do that, I’m not sure I could have done this.” – Australian Story, 2013
2. Ellen DeGeneres
“Honestly, we’d probably be great parents. But it’s a human being, and unless you think you have excellent skills and have a drive or yearning in you to do that, the amount of work that that is and responsibility — I wouldn’t want to screw them up! We love our animals.” – People, 2013
3. Helen Mirren
“It was not my destiny, I kept thinking it would be, waiting for it to happen, but it never did, and I didn’t care what people thought … It was only boring old men [who would ask me]. And whenever they went, ‘What? No children? Well, you’d better get on with it, old girl,’ I’d say ‘No! F*** off!’” – Vogue, 2013
4. Renee Zellweger
“Motherhood has never been an ambition. I don’t think like that. I never have expectations like ‘when I’m 19 I’m going to do this, and by the time I’ve hit 25 I’m going to do that’. I just take things as they come, each day at a time, and if things happen, all well and good. I just want to be independent and be able to take care of myself. Anything else is just gravy.” – the Late Show With David Letterman, 2008
5. Ricki-Lee Coulter
“We both don’t want kids… I don’t know whether it’s my experience [being raised by a single, teenage mum] as a kid, but I know how crazy my life is and how all over the place it is, and you have to be selfish to do what I do.” – Daily Mail, 2014
Top Comments
All women are judged by someone, or have unwanted 'advice' thrown their way. Have no kids; When are you having kids? Have one kid; When are you having another? Two kids? Maybe another girl or boy to keep so and so company. More than 3? Don't you know how babies are made?! Someone will always judge you on your life choices if they differ from their own. Just let it go, and live/love your life
These women should not have to justify their choice not to have a child. This article and the comments just reinforce the notion that women are wombs and that if they don't fulfill that role then they should have some sort of reason.