The role of a father during labour and the expectations of a partner are being hotly debated on social media after Brisbane Broncos star player James Roberts risked missing the birth of his first child, in order to instead play with his team.
The baby – the first for the 23-year-old and his partner, Anna Jovanovic – finally arrived on Sunday, but Jovanovic’s waters broke Friday leaving Roberts with the decision whether to stay by his partner’s side, or travel to Brisbane’s Suncorp Stadium to play against the Rabbitohs.
James Roberts and wife, Anna with baby Kirk. Via Facebook.
Roberts admitted in a video release that his wife was against the decision.
“She was begging me to stay and not go but I just wanted to come up and do a job for the boys,” he said.
“I am sure Wayne [coach Wayne Bennett] did (want me to play) but he didn’t say much, I think he was just avoiding calls from Anna. I thought it was close — the water broke the day before, but it dragged on a bit. We ended having it on Sunday morning at four o’clock.
When the couple’s baby, named Kirk, finally arrived the game was well and truly over (the Broncos beating the Rabbitohs 30- 8) and Roberts was by his wife's side.
He said : “I am glad it is all over and it's pretty enjoyable going home to my little boy."
But despite the fact Roberts didn’t actually miss the birth of his son social media users were horrified at the thought Jovanovic, in Roberts’s own words “begged him to stay” and yet he went anyway.
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This is his job though. Not saying it's okay but he wouldn't be the first father to miss a birth. We are also talking about a 23yr old having his first child. Quite often men haven't bonded with the baby as they haven't felt this little human growing. They can have no idea of the emotions they are about to experience. My husband was 30 when we had our first and I don't think it really hit him that he was going to be a father until our son was born. There are probably a number of reasons for his decision, whatever his reasons he made the birth and we should let the couple enjoy their newborn baby without all this social media attention.
It isn't all about the baby though. It should be more about being there for his wife at her most vulnerable.
I'm not particularly convinced by the wife's statement. It's not like she was going to talk to the media and say "I know, right? What a selfish dick my husband is!"
She married a professional football player. What do you think she expected from him?